The Logic of Parenting...

An email arrived at my doorstep. It is about the story of the pencil and the eraser. I don't know where it originates yet it is still worth sharing. It is pretty simple but had lots of lessons and sensible points to think about.

Here goes the pencil and the eraser...

Pencil: I'm sorry.


Eraser: For what? You didn’t do anything wrong.

Pencil: I’m sorry because you get hurt because of me. Whenever I made a mistake, you’re always there to erase it. But as you make my mistakes vanish, you lose a part of yourself. You get smaller and smaller each time.

Eraser: That’s true. But I don’t really mind. You see, I was made to do this. I was made to help you whenever you do something wrong. Even though one day, I know I’ll be gone and you’ll replace me with a new one, I’m actually happy with my job. So please, stop worrying. I hate seeing you sad.

The conversation between the pencil and the eraser is very inspirational. Parents are like the eraser whereas their children are the pencil. They’re always there for their children, cleaning up their mistakes. Sometimes along the way, they get hurt, and become smaller (older), and eventually pass on. Though their children will eventually find someone new (spouse), but parents are still happy with what they do for their children, and will always hate seeing their precious ones worrying or sad. All my life, I’ve been the pencil. And it pains me to see the eraser that is my parents getting smaller and smaller each day. For I know that one day, all that I’m left with would be eraser shavings and memories of what I used to have.


I think that's the logic of parenting...

Parenthood

Our little boy just turned 1 month, 3 days ago and we are now a certified parent but it is just the beginning. So far, it seems that raising a small infant is difficult to handle especially that you have a day work to attend.It's not that I'm complaining, I was just saying, you know. In fact, it's still a reward and is still worthy even you are weary and stressed.

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Anyway, that was not the thing that I must be talking right now and that wasn’t the stuff that lingers in my mind ever since. What’s in my mind is about when to let go of our children. What I’m trying to say is when will be the right or appropriate time (if there is?) that we are going to let our children decide for themselves? Is there specific time frame that we must let them decide in their own? I know that it is the obligation of parents to guide their children in the right path but sometimes when they become older parents tend to meddle and will decide for them. I heard and saw different stories of this kind and the same reason why I was able to create a poem regarding such matter. Parents decide what college education they want to have for their children, what friends they should not be going with and even chose who the boy/girlfriend they must have. These are just the few of the so many that parents encroached in their children.

Read more about Parenthood here.